Grades 2–4
Conflict Tools Match
Match seven conflict tools, like compromise, take turns and cool off, to what each one means.
SEL worksheet · Conflict resolution
Use an I-Message
Learn the I-message: I feel… when… because… I need… Then write one for three real problems.
- Grade level
- Grades 2–5
- Time
- About 25 minutes
- Topic
- Conflict resolution
- Answer key
- Yes, page 2 of the PDF
- Kids practice
- Conflict resolution, I-messages, Compromise, Active listening
What kids do
Printed on the sheet:
- An I-message tells someone how you feel without blaming them. I feel (the feeling) when (what happened) because (why it matters). I need (what would help). Example: “I feel upset when you take my markers without asking because I need them for my project. I need you to ask first.”
- 1. Your brother keeps changing the TV channel while you are watching.
- 2. A friend tells your secret to the class.
- 3. Your group does not let you share your idea.
Words on this sheet
I feelwhenbecauseI need
Teacher tip
Practice with a silly problem first, like someone eating your imaginary pizza.
How to use it
- Practice when everyone is calm, not in the middle of a real conflict.
- Use the same words from the sheet when a real conflict comes up.
- Read scenarios aloud for younger kids and let them answer with a drawing.
Watch for
Bullying is not a conflict between equals. Make sure kids know to tell a grown-up about it.
Talk about it
- How can you tell when you are ready to talk it out?
- How might someone else see it differently?
Take it further
Train a few kids as class peacemakers who help classmates use the steps.
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